Attend the funeral
Reach out to the grieving
Cook for the grieving
This may sound trivial but grief may cause people to lose the desire to cook or even eat. But if someone takes the time to prepare meals for the grieving, then not only will this be a gesture of love and comfort, but you will also help in maintaining the grieving nourished.
Help spread the message
By helping the bereaved share information concerning funeral arrangements or memorial services, you lift a huge burden off their shoulders. The fact is, during this sensitive time they will be emotionally and mentally drained and anything that they don’t have to deal with will be a huge help.
Understand that everyone grieves differently
Roll with the emotions
The bereaved is going through an intense emotional struggle. This may display itself with some extreme and erratic behavior such as yelling out in anger, crying uncontrollably, “snapping” at loved ones, etc. Do not judge the bereaved in this moment and definitely don’t take anything personal.
Do not rush things
Don’t steer the feelings away
Silence is not a bad thing
Let the bereaved talk about the deceased
Do not minimize the loss
Avoid these phrases
There are just somethings that should never be said to someone who is grieving. For example, phrases like “I know how you feel”, “it’s part of God’s plan”, “look at what you have to be thankful for”,”he’s in a better place now”,’it’s time to move on” all of these should be avoided at all costs.
Spend time with the bereaved
Grieving will take time and lots of it. As such; always make yourself available for the bereaved. Call to find out about their day; engage in walks and talks with the bereaved on a consistent basis; visit often and help around the house with chores and shopping; etc.