Let’s face it: relationships are difficult sometimes. Some of you may argue they are difficult all the time. (Hopefully this list will help reduce the amount of time you think they are hard!) Life with another person is bound to have its ups and downs, good times and bad times, pros and cons. We are no longer fully our “own island,” and we’re forced to make adjustments to our lives that maybe we didn’t foresee when we first thought to ourselves, “Hmmm…She/he is CUTE!!!”
Just like staying healthy and in-shape, there is no magic pill to make everything 100% peachy 24/7. Even the best of relationships have their rough patches, and it’s a safe bet to say that most of us have had a relationship fail when we didn’t expect it to. All this said, there are things we can do to help keep our relationships running top-notch with maybe only an occasional rough few days here and there. Sometimes the best advice is to take no advice, while sometimes a little advice now and then goes a long way. If you are feeling like some advice would help you right now, here are 25 Tips To Help Your Relationships Run Smoother.
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Keep relatives and friends out of your relationship.
There is a saying, “Air your dirty laundry at home.” It’s not your friend’s or parent’s relationship. They don’t have to live with your significant other. Don’t give them permission to have a voice in how that relationship plays out. This can be difficult to do especially if you are close to one of your parents or have a best friend. However, because they are your parent or your friend, they will have a difficult time being unbiased or objective when you have relationship issues. When you finally do solve your issues with your partner, they might not get over it as easily as you do.
Do kind things for each other.
This should really go without saying. We usually don’t forget this when we first start dating, but we quickly do after a few years go by. By doing kind things for each other with no ulterior motive in mind, we remind ourselves and our partner a little bit about why we fell in love in the first place.
Keep past relationships out of your current one.
It’s true that what happened in the past shapes who we are today. It’s also true that past relationships can leave us to be a little distrusting or broken. Despite all of this, it’s important to allow yourself time to heal enough to not make your current significant other pay for the mistakes of others.
Don't use sex as a weapon.
Sex is something to be enjoyed. In the context of a committed relationship, it’s a testament to your love and connection. If you start wielding it as a powerful tool, it loses its value to connect you with the other person, and they might even start resenting you for it.
Have date nights
Marriage or any other form of commitment doesn’t take away the fact that we all want to be given attention. Let’s face it; after the years go by, it’s easy to lose focus of each other and only pay attention to the bills that need to get paid and the work that needs to get done inside and outside the home. Taking some time to remember that your partner is actually your lover (or was at one point) will help you remember that it’s not just about the kids and the mortgage. You are not just a parent, and you are not living for your mortgage. There was a reason once why you decided to attach your life to that person; date nights help you not to forget it.