25 Things Not To Do On Your First Date

Posted by , Updated on August 26, 2014

Going on a date can be nerve wracking yet exciting (especially if it’s your first one). There are so many unknown variables that you will have to discover, like is your date going to like you or are you going to like them back; are they funny or stoic; do they have good manners or do they prefer candid expressions of physiological functions? I think the key to any dating situation is just to be yourself. If the person likes who you are, than you’re on the right track. Nevertheless, there are things that you should try to avoid doing on your first date (first impressions are huge). To help you out, here are 25 things not to do on your first date.


Do not be gross


Be careful not to do things such as belching or picking your nose when you are in front of your date. A). that’s just gross and B)…that’s just gross (redundancy is intentional). The point is, this is not a time to demonstrate how comfortable you are with your own body, it’s a time to focus on the other person (and hopefully not gross them away from your life).


Do not go on a date when you are drunk


This advice should be obvious, nevertheless some people have gone on dates after a booze session without knowing how risky that may be. You want to have a sharp mind on your first date and it only takes one drink for that edge to disappear. Charm your date with your witty humor and not your witless lack of alcohol control.


Do not smoke


Especially when you plan to end your date with a kiss. People normally don’t enjoy kissing an ash tray, so if you do not want to make your mouth smell or taste like one, refrain from lighting up.


Do not eat garlic


Garlic is probably the worst when it comes to making your mouth stink but the principle is the same with anything you put in your mouth; you want your mouth to smell good. Remember, you’re going to be doing a lot of talking and listening (unless it’s a bad date…in which case a stinky mouth may come in handy).


Do not order messy foods


It’s your first date. You will probably be nervous, which means you are more likely to make clumsy mistakes. Avoid the opportunity of wearing your clumsy mistake by ordering food that’s not messy. For example, spaghetti is probably too messy (any sauce flinging pastas tend to be).


Do not forget to shave


Ladies, if you wear any kind of skirt or shorts, your legs need to be shaved (most guys like shaved legs). Men, some ladies like a scruffy face, some don’t. Unless you know for a fact that the lady you want to date likes a scruffy face, don’t take the risk; shave.


Do not start talking about marriage or having babies


Especially on your first date; never talk about things such as getting married, meeting her parents or having babies. Dating should be taken one step at a time. Talking about such things will only make your date feel uncomfortable.


Do not talk about your past relationships


Talking about your exes or past relationships while you are on a date tells your date you have not moved on. Also, how you talk about your exes will give your date an idea as to how you are going to treat them in the future.


Do not take your kids with you


One of the things you should remember is that a date’s purpose is to create an opportunity to get to know each other. Kids (as cute as they are) can be a distraction and a hindrance since there are certain subjects you wont be able to discuss in front of them.


Do not talk endlessly about your kids


If you are a widower, going on a date is not a bad thing (it’s actually quite healthy). As such, it’s not a bad thing that you have kids, just don’t let them be the main subject of your conversations.


Do not forget to mention that you have kids


On the other hand, failing to mention that you do have kids can seem a bit dubious and dishonest. Your date deserves to know what he/she is getting into if they decide to pursue a relationship.


Do not talk about sex


This should be an obvious advice but don’t talk about sex on the first date (unless that’s what you are solely looking for). If you are looking for a long lasting relationship, you have to start building it on a solid foundation and sex is not that foundation.


Do not talk about your problems


Moaning about things while on a date can be very annoying for the person you are with. Dating is supposed to be fun; it is supposed to be a venue for two people to get to know each other.


Do not be late


What’s more valuable than money? Time. Therefore you should treat someone else’s time with the utmost respect. Being late to your first date (or anything else for that matter) is a blatant disrespect. If you are running late, call and inform them of the situation (preferably before you’re supposed to be there).


Do not cancel at the last minute


Again, time is valuable. If your date is already set, do not cancel it at the last minute (that is if you want to continue seeing this person). They have already scheduled you into their time and you need to respect that.


Do not go out with dirty clothes


No matter how bad your day may be, never go on a date with dirty or lousy clothes on. Food stains on clothes? Not attractive. Wrinkled shirt? Still not attractive.


Do not forget to make sure your date gets home safe


Guys, be gentleman enough to drive your date safely home. If you do not have a car, at least get her a cab with a nice driver to ensure that she is in good hands.


Do not flirt with other people


One of the most important things you should remember when you go on a date is that you should give your date all of your attention. Don’t insult your date by A.) not paying attention and B). Telling your date someone else deserves your attention. That’s just rude.


Do not complain about the bill


Not complaining about the bill is more about being discreet than being pretentious. Be sure that you have enough money with you when you go on a date so the bill doesn’t catch you by surprise.


Do not ask about your date’s exes


There is a time and place for everything but your first date is not the place to be asking about your date’s exes. These questions make for a very uncomfortable first date.


Do not talk about yourself endlessly


It’s good to have confidence in who you are (a very attractive trait by the way). Nevertheless, let your actions show your confidence. When you endlessly talk about yourself you appear selfish, full of yourself, and unrelatable.


Do not babble


It is good to keep talking to avoid dead air when on a date, but make sure that your date gets to have the chance to talk, too. At least once in a while, take a breath so your date can talk about their interests as well.


Do not tell your date that you are in love


It is crazy to tell somebody that you love them on the first date. Even if you believe in love at first sight, these are very powerful words that carry a host of implications and expectations. Such words should only be mentioned when the relationship is official.


Do not appear too desperate to give compliments


While giving your date compliments is a great thing to do, overdoing it will make you appear like a liar. When you are on a date, try to be as honest as you can, but never tactless.


Do not be shy


Try to get away from your shyness when you go on a date. Remember, if your date has agreed to go out with you is because there is some interest on their part. Be confident and enjoy yourself.

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